How Does Coaching Work?

by Steven Carney on September 11, 2013

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From time to time, questions arise about coaching and the powerful process it embodies. Coaching can change your life! For this post, I though I would try to address some common areas of confusion, using a Q and A approach.

1. Is coaching like therapy?

Not really. Although coaching sessions are usually weekly, especially for the first 4 calls, the approach and goals are different for coaching compared to therapy. In coaching, we focus on the future not the past.

Initially, I do an assessment in the first calls: I gather some background info, especially for health and life coaching, but also for business coaching. As a coach, I get to know you in those first calls. I need to know your values and your world view: your hopes, dreams, desires, goals and what might be holding you back. This is one reason that coaching works. I’m learning about those things you really want to help you move forward!

I also offer some tips and help in those first calls. Clients do better when they feel like they are moving forward right away! I don’t like to leave a client waiting for another week.

A key difference between coaching and therapy is that coaching looks forward, to the future. Therapy often looks back at how you got to where you are (significant events, family or people in your life, etc.). Coaching looks forward to where you want to be and who you want to be!

Coaching is focused on personal discovery, solving problems and finding solutions. Coaching helps you to set goals and overcome the obstacles in your path. It’s a hands-on approach that creates forward progress and action! I’m less concerned about how you got where you are than helping you map the forward movement you need to satisfy your needs and reach your goals!

This future focus is a powerful technique. There is no stigma attached to coaching because it’s about having more success! In many places around the world, people use coaches regularly. For many, it’s prestigious to have a personal coach! It’s a sign people are on the move and improving their lives. But in the U.S., coaching is still new to most people.

One thing that is unique to my coaching is my holistic approach. I see the total you, from head to toe. I have multiple certifications and lots of experience to help you in any area of you life that you need help in: mental and physical health, relationships and career, money and business, I cover it all.

2. How long are the sessions?

The sessions usually run 45-60 minutes by phone. No travel is necessary (you can live anywhere in the US or Canada). I sometimes work with other countries in Europe as well, but I only speak English (I took Spanish and French years ago but I haven’t used either enough to be proficient). The first few calls, where I’m still getting to know you and gather some history, tend to be a bit longer. I need to know you as quickly as possible! Once we settle in, the calls tend to be a bit shorter as we focus on more single goals (although sometimes, new issues pop up).

BTW, coaching really speeds up forward progress! Unlike therapy, which can go on for many months, coaching can carry you farther, faster, something clients really appreciate.

3. Why are sessions weekly, rather than monthly?

Weekly sessions are important for creating a regular structure, developing trust and making coaching a part of your life. Again, I need to get to know you so I can be more effective at helping you to be more successful. If I only talked to you monthly, many new issues would crop up even as I’m getting to know you while we’re trying to develop trust and comfort. Think of any relationship you want to develop.

Have you had much success with a relationship that had only monthly contact? Probably not. That person might be an acquaintance but little more. Certainly not a trusting or strong, supportive relationship! The process bogs down and starts to slide backward! Some clients have pushed for more time because they say they are broke, but I find the coaching process falls apart. It deflates like a cold balloon.

Many times, coaching is about making small changes that bring the most results, then reinforcing those results. Changing habits still takes some time and practice. It often takes a few weeks to evolve and for changes to take hold. Again, regular contact helps me to support you in those transitions and I make sure they are comfortable for you. That’s another reason there is powerful change in coaching. Those small changes add up! I guarantee results but I can only do that if we are on the same page and working as a team.

Most clients are doing very well after 4-6 calls. At that point, we can see if there are new issues to work on or if you want to continue on a less frequent schedule, or if you are ready to fly on your own! Everyone has different needs but overall, I’m not here to create dependency or to keep the process going unless you enjoy it and want to do more sessions. And compared to therapy (which I support for those who need it), it can take several months to work through an issue!

4. What are sessions like?

Once we get started, we work together to discuss your priorities and set some goals. What are you after, what are you trying to achieve and how soon? I work with both short and long-term goals. Once a goal is set, we work out a plan to get you there. What’s in the way, if anything? What steps do you need to take to start seeing results? What resources do you need? How will things be better when you achieve what you are after?

Then we begin to track how things are going in the following weeks, and I help to inspire, support and encourage you along the way. It’s true when I say almost anything is possible! I try to remind you that many goals are achievable! This is also a powerful part of process as I help and encourage you to feel empowered!

Coaching is like having a special friend to talk to. Someone you trust and admire because they are there to help you; they are committed to your success. Someone who helps you get the most out of life! Once there is trust, we’ll have more laughs and work together like a great team.

What doesn’t work is when a client wants to cancel/reschedule appointments, or doesn’t follow through on promises made. Some have asked questions by e-mail when they are no longer paying. Do you have to pay your doctor, financial planner, therapist or other professional? I keep my fees low to be able to help people but lots of rescheduling or other obstacles thrown up will undermine the coaching relationship (like it does to most other relationships), making further progress unlikely.

If I feel the client is no longer focused or committed to their own success, or they see coaching as a burden rather than the powerful solution that it represents, I will end the coaching relationship. It doesn’t happen often, but sometimes, it’s the best decision!

5. What should the client bring to the table?

I can’t coach anyone who doesn’t want to be coached. Sometimes a family member or friend will want a family member to get coaching. That’s great but if that person doesn’t want to be coached, and isn’t motivated to improve their life, there isn’t much I can do.

Clients must have that basic interest in solving the challenges they have or achieving more success. The client needs to do their part and follow through for those initial 4-6 calls. Quitting after 2 or 3 calls will often lead to failure. Like most things in life, you get out what you put in!

But if the client is committed and able to follow through, coaching helps to multiply any progress to keep momentum going. It’s a powerful process that brings significant change in a few weeks. Yes, coaching can make your dreams come true!

If you are a new client and would like to know more, drop me a line at: and we can set up a free, 30-minute call to discuss your concerns and questions. BTW, coaching si confidential. I don’t use your name or location.

If you would like to try some initial sessions, I only charge 2 for $29.00. That’s the price of a modest dinner out. One is for a short-term dining experience, the other can change your life forever. Only you can choose!

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© 2013 by Steve Carney/End Sickness Now

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